Field Report: Pulled a bartender’s phone number
This went pretty much by the book, which is great. It was simple. I was at a networking function last night and I started a tab at the bar. I went to get another beer and the girl who got it asked me what my name was again. I immediately teased her about it because nobody is allowed to forget my name! I wouldn’t tell her. The other bartender remembered my name and said it out loud so it was even better.
Later I came up to the bar and got another beer and she looked at me and said “What do you want?” in a playful voice and gave me a big smile. Awhile after that I was sitting at a table talking to my friend on the phone and she was walking by. She stopped, looked over, and gave me a HUGE smile before she continued on. I gave her a little nod and a slightly sly grin. At one point after that she did something and I told her that the relationship was over…we were breaking up. That usually works great!
I was at the bar a decent while longer talking to some poeple and having a good time. I decided to make my move so I told her to get a pen and paper. She came back with it. I told her to write her name down. She did so. I asked her if she ever had anybody analyze her handwriting. She was excited about that idea. She came back over and I told her to write her number down because I didn’t have time to do it at the moment. She said she couldn’t write down her number, but she could write down a number. I told her to just write her number down. Being strong and telling them what to do is what they want anyway. She writes a number down. I talk to some additional people and I leave.
I call the next night and it was a fake number. I was surprised because she gave me strong signs that she was attracted. It’s no big deal; it happens. I’ll just save the paper and next time I go in I’ll go up to her and ask her what kind of silly shit she’s trying to pull… give me the right number. I’ll hand the paper right to her so she knows what I mean. I was extremely confident at the time so I didn’t check it. That’s one thing you can do when you’re there to make sure it’s a kosher number. Just call the number and see what happens. If it’s fake, call her out on it and tell her to give you the real number.
To become a dating coach?
I’ve been thinking lately that it would really be cool to be a dating coach. A guy who has achieved many of his goals and who can coach other guys up and help them to improve their game. If I’m going to be a dating coach, by default I’m also going to be a life coach because of all the self improvement work that goes into becoming better at dating.
I will have to not only have tons of knowledge but I will have to be able to apply it successfully and consistently in the field in front of an audience (my students). I will have to become a great teacher who can analyze my students and point them in the right direction. I will have to be a great motivator and be able to inspire confidence in any man, even one who thinks a situation is impossible.
The main thing I have to do at this point is to reach a level of personal ‘mastery’. I have to really put my all into it every day in every situation. I have to approach women with reckless abandon, be ultra alpha and non-reactive as well as outcome independent. I know what I need to do. Now I must execute.
Here’s a page with some info on how to be a top dating coach. It’s written by a dating coach. (I haven’t checked out any of his stuff but what he says here is all true.)
http://www.ehow.com/how_5039643_top-dating-coach.html
How I found “The Game”
You’re probably wondering how I found out about the community. (The dating/seduction/self improvement/get better with women/whatever you want to call it/it has a lot of names community.) Below is a brief overview of how I found it.
It was August 2006. I was mired in one of the worst depressions of my life over a girl, of all things. I met this girl on Myspace. I met her on Myspace because I was scared to approach and speak to girls who were right there in front of me. (We call that “approach anxiety. It’s a big issue for most guys, especially when starting out or if they don’t know that it can be overcome/reduced/) She was into me. At the time, I didn’t know how to attract women, but guys who don’t know how it’s done do it all the time. We hung out a few times and got physical. I shoulda had sex with her but I didn’t because I wasn’t really man enough at the time to take control and just do things like that a lot of the time.
OK, everything sounds great, or at least pretty good, right? Well, after a few weeks I became very needy and clingy, told her I missed her, and went to pieces. I became a mess. Around that time I found out that she was an addict of prescription pain killers. She was a mess in her own way. She had gotten clean for a few weeks, but she went back to using. I had successfully pushed her away from me while also finding out that she was a drug addict. Well, guess what I did… Since I didn’t know how to get other women and I didn’t have the abundance mentality that I have now (the mentality that there are tons of other women out there and to just move on to them) I tried to fix her, with the thought that then I’d get her back for me. What a co-dependent mess…
I became addicted to trying to fix her while she was hardcore addicted to her pain killer pills. It was a mess. This went on for awhile until I finally found a treatment that helped her to get off the pills. I did a ton of work for her. But, as I now know, that isn’t gonna make her attracted to me. After she got off the pills she wasn’t attracted to me. I got really upset because of that (I had very poor boundary function… a term I had never heard of at that time) and I did and said some things that made her never want to speak to me again. Well, she didn’t want me and I was in love with her. It was horrendous. It was a very shitty time in my life.
I recall one day sitting at my computer doing searches on dating, and help with women, etc., and I came across a guy named “David DeAngelo”. I ordered a few of his products fairly soon, one being his Advanced Dating Techniques program. That is how it all started!
