Field Report: Pulled a bartender’s phone number
This went pretty much by the book, which is great. It was simple. I was at a networking function last night and I started a tab at the bar. I went to get another beer and the girl who got it asked me what my name was again. I immediately teased her about it because nobody is allowed to forget my name! I wouldn’t tell her. The other bartender remembered my name and said it out loud so it was even better.
Later I came up to the bar and got another beer and she looked at me and said “What do you want?” in a playful voice and gave me a big smile. Awhile after that I was sitting at a table talking to my friend on the phone and she was walking by. She stopped, looked over, and gave me a HUGE smile before she continued on. I gave her a little nod and a slightly sly grin. At one point after that she did something and I told her that the relationship was over…we were breaking up. That usually works great!
I was at the bar a decent while longer talking to some poeple and having a good time. I decided to make my move so I told her to get a pen and paper. She came back with it. I told her to write her name down. She did so. I asked her if she ever had anybody analyze her handwriting. She was excited about that idea. She came back over and I told her to write her number down because I didn’t have time to do it at the moment. She said she couldn’t write down her number, but she could write down a number. I told her to just write her number down. Being strong and telling them what to do is what they want anyway. She writes a number down. I talk to some additional people and I leave.
I call the next night and it was a fake number. I was surprised because she gave me strong signs that she was attracted. It’s no big deal; it happens. I’ll just save the paper and next time I go in I’ll go up to her and ask her what kind of silly shit she’s trying to pull… give me the right number. I’ll hand the paper right to her so she knows what I mean. I was extremely confident at the time so I didn’t check it. That’s one thing you can do when you’re there to make sure it’s a kosher number. Just call the number and see what happens. If it’s fake, call her out on it and tell her to give you the real number.
Some tips on getting physical with women
You probably thought that you need to kiss a women to turn her on. That is definitely not the case. In fact, it’s just a belief system of yours that needs a bit of an adjustment. Let’s give you some pointers, shall we?
Be the one to engage the girl, but also be the one to disengage her first when touching. It shows non-neediness and it will impress her, plus it will make her chase after you. It also builds confusion in her mind, which is good. Give and take. You stop things, then re-escalate, then stop. Do this smoothly, of course. Give her a kiss, pull back, and playfully say “That’s all you get!” while you’re rubbing her ass or something like that. It totally confuses them and turns them on. Wait a little, and re-escalate.
Pull the hair at the back of her neck. They love this. It feels good, it’s a prelude to sex, and it’s dominant. Do it when kissing her, or call her a bad girl, say don’t be bad, and reach back and do it. Do not try to rip her hair out! Use good judgement…
Smell their shoulders and neck from behind. It’s primal. I don’t know why it works, but it makes them melt, and they’ll often let you know it. Just get behind them and start smelling. They’ll often get goosebumps and/or turn around and just start making out with you. It never gets old.
Run your fingers very lightly over the hair on her body (arms, etc) without actually touching the skin. It has a neat feel to it. Try it on yourself. It’s different and she’ll like it.
