Field Report: Pulled a bartender’s phone number
This went pretty much by the book, which is great. It was simple. I was at a networking function last night and I started a tab at the bar. I went to get another beer and the girl who got it asked me what my name was again. I immediately teased her about it because nobody is allowed to forget my name! I wouldn’t tell her. The other bartender remembered my name and said it out loud so it was even better.
Later I came up to the bar and got another beer and she looked at me and said “What do you want?” in a playful voice and gave me a big smile. Awhile after that I was sitting at a table talking to my friend on the phone and she was walking by. She stopped, looked over, and gave me a HUGE smile before she continued on. I gave her a little nod and a slightly sly grin. At one point after that she did something and I told her that the relationship was over…we were breaking up. That usually works great!
I was at the bar a decent while longer talking to some poeple and having a good time. I decided to make my move so I told her to get a pen and paper. She came back with it. I told her to write her name down. She did so. I asked her if she ever had anybody analyze her handwriting. She was excited about that idea. She came back over and I told her to write her number down because I didn’t have time to do it at the moment. She said she couldn’t write down her number, but she could write down a number. I told her to just write her number down. Being strong and telling them what to do is what they want anyway. She writes a number down. I talk to some additional people and I leave.
I call the next night and it was a fake number. I was surprised because she gave me strong signs that she was attracted. It’s no big deal; it happens. I’ll just save the paper and next time I go in I’ll go up to her and ask her what kind of silly shit she’s trying to pull… give me the right number. I’ll hand the paper right to her so she knows what I mean. I was extremely confident at the time so I didn’t check it. That’s one thing you can do when you’re there to make sure it’s a kosher number. Just call the number and see what happens. If it’s fake, call her out on it and tell her to give you the real number.
Protected: A Quick Way to Get a Girl’s Number
Who Will Control the Relationship?
Who will control the relationship?
When you meet someone and start a relationship with them, it is decided very quickly who is going to be the dominant one and who is going to be the submissive one. As you become more accustomed to being in control, you will end up being in control more of the time. You’ll start using the voice tone, body language, and gestures of someone who is in control, is used to being in control, and who is confident being in control. This happens mainly on an unconscious level.
Consider this passage from “Lew Burke’s Dog Training”. The trick here, though, is that it has been modified to apply to humans. Only the word ‘person’ or ‘human’ has been changed out for the word ‘dog’ or ‘canine’ for the most part.
How the human sees itself within the family (instead of “How the dog sees it self within the pack”, for example.) Before starting to teach any human, a teacher should be familiar with how a person thinks. In it’s natural habitat, the wild, the human belongs to a group. If he is not the pack leader, he fits somewhere within the hierarchy of the group. If he does not obey the laws of the group, the leader will make certain that he complies. If the leader is not successful, a new group leader will be born. When we take a human into our homes, as far as he is concerned, he belongs to a group. No human ever turns on his master. Instead, he challenges for leadership. Therefore, if you’re going to be the group leader, you must have a way of maintaining control as far as the human is concerned. You must be able to establish definite rules and regulations which the human as a group member can never deviate from. If you are successful in enforcing your rules 99% of the time you are not the genuine group leader. The 99% control will slip to 95% and then to 90%. Eventually, if the human has a drive toward achieving group leadership he might eventually challenge.
This is obviously an extreme, but have you ever known a guy who had 99% slip to 95% slip to 90% and then eventually she took half, the kids, and the house and completely ran his life? Many of us know guys who this has happened to. Again, this is an extreme case meant as an illustration. To bring it close to home: Ever get into a relationship with a woman where in the beginning you felt totally in control and over time the control felt like it slipped through your fingers and at the same time the relationship got very bad? If I asked you about it, you probably wouldn’t say that you allowed it to happen, but that it pretty much just happened on its own. You were just trying to please her and make her life better and things kept getting worse. One of your jobs as the leader is to keep her in line. Not in any condescending type of way. Not in a mean way. Not in an abusive way. The idea is that women feel safe around a man who is in control and who can put is foot down if she gets out of line, and she feels safe around a man who will put her in her place. She does not feel safe around a man who she can walk over. Just calmly tell her that whatever she is doing isn’t part of the plan and she knows it and to knock it off. She should get the idea and she’ll love you for it.
How I found “The Game”
You’re probably wondering how I found out about the community. (The dating/seduction/self improvement/get better with women/whatever you want to call it/it has a lot of names community.) Below is a brief overview of how I found it.
It was August 2006. I was mired in one of the worst depressions of my life over a girl, of all things. I met this girl on Myspace. I met her on Myspace because I was scared to approach and speak to girls who were right there in front of me. (We call that “approach anxiety. It’s a big issue for most guys, especially when starting out or if they don’t know that it can be overcome/reduced/) She was into me. At the time, I didn’t know how to attract women, but guys who don’t know how it’s done do it all the time. We hung out a few times and got physical. I shoulda had sex with her but I didn’t because I wasn’t really man enough at the time to take control and just do things like that a lot of the time.
OK, everything sounds great, or at least pretty good, right? Well, after a few weeks I became very needy and clingy, told her I missed her, and went to pieces. I became a mess. Around that time I found out that she was an addict of prescription pain killers. She was a mess in her own way. She had gotten clean for a few weeks, but she went back to using. I had successfully pushed her away from me while also finding out that she was a drug addict. Well, guess what I did… Since I didn’t know how to get other women and I didn’t have the abundance mentality that I have now (the mentality that there are tons of other women out there and to just move on to them) I tried to fix her, with the thought that then I’d get her back for me. What a co-dependent mess…
I became addicted to trying to fix her while she was hardcore addicted to her pain killer pills. It was a mess. This went on for awhile until I finally found a treatment that helped her to get off the pills. I did a ton of work for her. But, as I now know, that isn’t gonna make her attracted to me. After she got off the pills she wasn’t attracted to me. I got really upset because of that (I had very poor boundary function… a term I had never heard of at that time) and I did and said some things that made her never want to speak to me again. Well, she didn’t want me and I was in love with her. It was horrendous. It was a very shitty time in my life.
I recall one day sitting at my computer doing searches on dating, and help with women, etc., and I came across a guy named “David DeAngelo”. I ordered a few of his products fairly soon, one being his Advanced Dating Techniques program. That is how it all started!
