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Emotional Mastery: It is massively important in all aspects of life. If a person wants to reach his full potential, he will put forth effort into becoming the master of his emotions. Achieving higher and higher degrees of emotional mastery will lead to success in all areas of life: personally, with family, with friends, in the business world, and with women.
1. Accept yourself as you are. The way things go down. Don’t be passive aggressive with yourself. Your quirks, your aging, your mortality. This is critical and puts the power back inside of you.
2. Make a personal commitment to develop into a more mature man.
3. Recognize that your unconscious, irrational, automatic, uncontrolled, emotional responses are a barrier between your current life and the one you want. Do not make them your reason for failing. Everybody DOES NOT have that stuff happen.
4. Take personal responsibility for every thought you have, emotion you feel, communication or action you take. Everything. All of them. If something comes up that is distasteful to you, remind yourself that you are responsible for that. You are responsible for generating your experience of reality.
5. It is wonderful to feel emotions very deeply if you choose, but do not be a victim of your emotions during times when it is not useful. Do not let your emotions run your life.
6. Let go of the paradigm “It’s understandable when I become overly emotional in this type of situation because anyone would” and other similar justifications and rationalizations that bring you comfort, approval, and sympathy from others. This stuff is holding you back.
7. The next level – Seeing the loss of emotional control as it happens in the moment, accepting it for what it is when it happens, and then staying committed to growth toward getting the life you want. As soon as an emotion comes up stop it, don’t let it get too big, think about it.
8. Mentally rehearsing the process of going through experiences that in the past used to trigger spontaneous overwhelming emotional responses and seeing yourself go through those experiences calmly and logically detached. Once you can see and redirect them, become proactive and prepare for them and know what to do when they happen.
9. Cultivate and expand the pause between any new stimulus and your emotional response to that stimulus. Do not get caught up in emotional turmoil.
10. Work every day to reprogram your mind and your responses so that you no longer allow outside events to push your emotional buttons and reinforcing your new paradigm, which is – emotional calm and stability is healthy mature and attractive. You experience it all day every day. Emotional calm and stability is possible and it is cool and good. It is possible to develop to the point where you can approach any situation without becoming emotionally destabilized and victimized.
As a real life example of #10 – Rudy Giuliani’s father told him that when things start to go crazy, out of control, and everybody is freaking out, you become the calmest person in the room. Become unnaturally calm. Become so calm and focused that you can objectively see what needs to be done. Everyone will look to you to be the leader. He has done that.
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