Field Report: Pulled a bartender’s phone number
This went pretty much by the book, which is great. It was simple. I was at a networking function last night and I started a tab at the bar. I went to get another beer and the girl who got it asked me what my name was again. I immediately teased her about it because nobody is allowed to forget my name! I wouldn’t tell her. The other bartender remembered my name and said it out loud so it was even better.
Later I came up to the bar and got another beer and she looked at me and said “What do you want?” in a playful voice and gave me a big smile. Awhile after that I was sitting at a table talking to my friend on the phone and she was walking by. She stopped, looked over, and gave me a HUGE smile before she continued on. I gave her a little nod and a slightly sly grin. At one point after that she did something and I told her that the relationship was over…we were breaking up. That usually works great!
I was at the bar a decent while longer talking to some poeple and having a good time. I decided to make my move so I told her to get a pen and paper. She came back with it. I told her to write her name down. She did so. I asked her if she ever had anybody analyze her handwriting. She was excited about that idea. She came back over and I told her to write her number down because I didn’t have time to do it at the moment. She said she couldn’t write down her number, but she could write down a number. I told her to just write her number down. Being strong and telling them what to do is what they want anyway. She writes a number down. I talk to some additional people and I leave.
I call the next night and it was a fake number. I was surprised because she gave me strong signs that she was attracted. It’s no big deal; it happens. I’ll just save the paper and next time I go in I’ll go up to her and ask her what kind of silly shit she’s trying to pull… give me the right number. I’ll hand the paper right to her so she knows what I mean. I was extremely confident at the time so I didn’t check it. That’s one thing you can do when you’re there to make sure it’s a kosher number. Just call the number and see what happens. If it’s fake, call her out on it and tell her to give you the real number.
Living in the moment
You can’t live in the past and you can’t live in the future. You’re entire life is lived right now, in the present moment. It’s important to invest in your now so that your now keeps getting better instead of trying to invest for the future. It’s always the now, baby. If you make your now better, your future now’s will be better as well.
Various studies have been done on how many thoughts the human mind has throughout the course of the day. According to Deepak Chopra (http://www.chopra.com/), the human mind has 60,000 thoughts a day of which 59,000 are repeats from yesterday. How many of the thoughts that you have each day are about the current moment versus a re-hash of the past or a future projection? Try to make a habit out of thinking about and concentrating on what is going on right now. If you spend much of your life thinking about the past or the future, did you actually miss most of your life?
Be present when you speak to people. Don’t let your mind wonder. Don’t worry about what you’re going to reply to them. Concentrate on what they are saying to you. When you make decisions, think about what is going on at that moment. You should find that it helps you in all of your life’s interactions.
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.”
Buddah
