Field Report: Pulled a bartender’s phone number
This went pretty much by the book, which is great. It was simple. I was at a networking function last night and I started a tab at the bar. I went to get another beer and the girl who got it asked me what my name was again. I immediately teased her about it because nobody is allowed to forget my name! I wouldn’t tell her. The other bartender remembered my name and said it out loud so it was even better.
Later I came up to the bar and got another beer and she looked at me and said “What do you want?” in a playful voice and gave me a big smile. Awhile after that I was sitting at a table talking to my friend on the phone and she was walking by. She stopped, looked over, and gave me a HUGE smile before she continued on. I gave her a little nod and a slightly sly grin. At one point after that she did something and I told her that the relationship was over…we were breaking up. That usually works great!
I was at the bar a decent while longer talking to some poeple and having a good time. I decided to make my move so I told her to get a pen and paper. She came back with it. I told her to write her name down. She did so. I asked her if she ever had anybody analyze her handwriting. She was excited about that idea. She came back over and I told her to write her number down because I didn’t have time to do it at the moment. She said she couldn’t write down her number, but she could write down a number. I told her to just write her number down. Being strong and telling them what to do is what they want anyway. She writes a number down. I talk to some additional people and I leave.
I call the next night and it was a fake number. I was surprised because she gave me strong signs that she was attracted. It’s no big deal; it happens. I’ll just save the paper and next time I go in I’ll go up to her and ask her what kind of silly shit she’s trying to pull… give me the right number. I’ll hand the paper right to her so she knows what I mean. I was extremely confident at the time so I didn’t check it. That’s one thing you can do when you’re there to make sure it’s a kosher number. Just call the number and see what happens. If it’s fake, call her out on it and tell her to give you the real number.
To become a dating coach?
I’ve been thinking lately that it would really be cool to be a dating coach. A guy who has achieved many of his goals and who can coach other guys up and help them to improve their game. If I’m going to be a dating coach, by default I’m also going to be a life coach because of all the self improvement work that goes into becoming better at dating.
I will have to not only have tons of knowledge but I will have to be able to apply it successfully and consistently in the field in front of an audience (my students). I will have to become a great teacher who can analyze my students and point them in the right direction. I will have to be a great motivator and be able to inspire confidence in any man, even one who thinks a situation is impossible.
The main thing I have to do at this point is to reach a level of personal ‘mastery’. I have to really put my all into it every day in every situation. I have to approach women with reckless abandon, be ultra alpha and non-reactive as well as outcome independent. I know what I need to do. Now I must execute.
Here’s a page with some info on how to be a top dating coach. It’s written by a dating coach. (I haven’t checked out any of his stuff but what he says here is all true.)
http://www.ehow.com/how_5039643_top-dating-coach.html
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Who Will Control the Relationship?
Who will control the relationship?
When you meet someone and start a relationship with them, it is decided very quickly who is going to be the dominant one and who is going to be the submissive one. As you become more accustomed to being in control, you will end up being in control more of the time. You’ll start using the voice tone, body language, and gestures of someone who is in control, is used to being in control, and who is confident being in control. This happens mainly on an unconscious level.
Consider this passage from “Lew Burke’s Dog Training”. The trick here, though, is that it has been modified to apply to humans. Only the word ‘person’ or ‘human’ has been changed out for the word ‘dog’ or ‘canine’ for the most part.
How the human sees itself within the family (instead of “How the dog sees it self within the pack”, for example.) Before starting to teach any human, a teacher should be familiar with how a person thinks. In it’s natural habitat, the wild, the human belongs to a group. If he is not the pack leader, he fits somewhere within the hierarchy of the group. If he does not obey the laws of the group, the leader will make certain that he complies. If the leader is not successful, a new group leader will be born. When we take a human into our homes, as far as he is concerned, he belongs to a group. No human ever turns on his master. Instead, he challenges for leadership. Therefore, if you’re going to be the group leader, you must have a way of maintaining control as far as the human is concerned. You must be able to establish definite rules and regulations which the human as a group member can never deviate from. If you are successful in enforcing your rules 99% of the time you are not the genuine group leader. The 99% control will slip to 95% and then to 90%. Eventually, if the human has a drive toward achieving group leadership he might eventually challenge.
This is obviously an extreme, but have you ever known a guy who had 99% slip to 95% slip to 90% and then eventually she took half, the kids, and the house and completely ran his life? Many of us know guys who this has happened to. Again, this is an extreme case meant as an illustration. To bring it close to home: Ever get into a relationship with a woman where in the beginning you felt totally in control and over time the control felt like it slipped through your fingers and at the same time the relationship got very bad? If I asked you about it, you probably wouldn’t say that you allowed it to happen, but that it pretty much just happened on its own. You were just trying to please her and make her life better and things kept getting worse. One of your jobs as the leader is to keep her in line. Not in any condescending type of way. Not in a mean way. Not in an abusive way. The idea is that women feel safe around a man who is in control and who can put is foot down if she gets out of line, and she feels safe around a man who will put her in her place. She does not feel safe around a man who she can walk over. Just calmly tell her that whatever she is doing isn’t part of the plan and she knows it and to knock it off. She should get the idea and she’ll love you for it.
Living in the moment
You can’t live in the past and you can’t live in the future. You’re entire life is lived right now, in the present moment. It’s important to invest in your now so that your now keeps getting better instead of trying to invest for the future. It’s always the now, baby. If you make your now better, your future now’s will be better as well.
Various studies have been done on how many thoughts the human mind has throughout the course of the day. According to Deepak Chopra (http://www.chopra.com/), the human mind has 60,000 thoughts a day of which 59,000 are repeats from yesterday. How many of the thoughts that you have each day are about the current moment versus a re-hash of the past or a future projection? Try to make a habit out of thinking about and concentrating on what is going on right now. If you spend much of your life thinking about the past or the future, did you actually miss most of your life?
Be present when you speak to people. Don’t let your mind wonder. Don’t worry about what you’re going to reply to them. Concentrate on what they are saying to you. When you make decisions, think about what is going on at that moment. You should find that it helps you in all of your life’s interactions.
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.”
Buddah
